Ladies.... lets talk about libido!

[buffbabeGA]

ok.. so when you are dieting does your libido go up or down????

its funny because now that i havent been training for awhile , i am finding that my libido is not as crazy as it was when i was working out consistently.


anyone else care to share......

[Neely]

With the last couple of realtionships I've had during prep time, my libido has gone WAY down, especially as I would get further into my diet. But I think a very big part of that had to do with the fact that those guys weren't into the gym for themselves AT ALL. Neither of them had a clue what the inside of a gym even looked like :rolleyes: They were the types that would get jealous of the time I spent in the gym (albeit only an hour or so a day) yet they wanted to reap all the rewards of it. They wanted to have the tight, hot girlfriend on their arm, but when it came to what I had to do to look that way..the diet, the training, the time, the stress... they wanted nothing to do with that. So it was almost as though I started feeling like a piece of meat to them the leaner I got. Their libidos went sky high, yet I didn't want them to even touch me. Heck, one of them even went to Vegas with me for USA's and didn't even bother to show up for ANY of the three rounds I did :banghead: Hence why those boys are now exes.

The one prep I did while dating a guy that was a former competitor, my libido seemed to increase as I got into my dieting. But things with him also turned rocky as I got close to my show. So that kinda threw the whole idea of a libido right out the window! haha.

The rest of my preps, I've been single. And honestly, those times I was single, I don't think I even put much thought into my sex drive. I was too consumed with what I was doing with everything else in my life to even worry about it.

[Patricia Dees]

I guess it depends how far along I am.
I have only done 2 shows thus far (just started dieting for 3rd) and they were when I was with my ex.

Who was...hot. :mad: LOL


So, unless it was a double cardio no carb day I was still ready to go.


Also, when I am lean, I just get so happy to see myself naked that it makes me wanna do it more :p

[Betsy]

I guess it depends how far along I am.
I have only done 2 shows thus far (just started dieting for 3rd) and they were when I was with my ex.

Who was...hot. :mad: LOL


So, unless it was a double cardio no carb day I was still ready to go.


Also, when I am lean, I just get so happy to see myself naked that it makes me wanna do it more :p

:LOLOL:

It depends--- when im dieting i am usually super TIREDDDDDDDD at night-- so if you can catch me awake LLETTTSSS GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO but I agree with Patr that when im in GREAT SHAPE i feel a LOT better about myself nakey--- lol now im like a beached whale.. NOT so sexy! :mad:

[truds]

It's sort of a catch 22 for me, I feel all lean and sexy .. but I'm just too darn tired and have no energy. So unless hubby wants to do all the work... :bananasex::SBT:

[Patricia Dees]

It's sort of a catch 22 for me, I feel all lean and sexy .. but I'm just too darn tired and have no energy. So unless hubby wants to do all the work... :bananasex::SBT:

So true.

[sdahlum]

I'm with Truds on this one. I feel so bad, cuz my hottie hubby (who works at home) gets me all turned on throughout the day, when the kids are around. But once the kids go down, I'm SPENT. I just wanna veg and then head to bed. But. . . if the hubby does the work, I'm VERY happy to oblige :) We can occassionally sneak in a nice quicky in the afternoon, though.

I also agree with feeling sexier when I'm dieting. I feel much more attractive (except for my nonexistent bewbies). It's just a shame that between the cardio, lifing and dieting, all I can think about it sleep :(

[JLB001]

Mine goes way up. :)

I see lots of plane flights in my future. lol

[NYCStrongFox]

Booty call - just perfect for when you need them and when you don't LOL...

[JenFerFigure]

Hi ladies,

Mine is naturally high, but when I have to do double cardio sessions, before work and after work...it's goes caput. Nada. Zylch. I'm too spent! All I want is some zzzzzzzsssss. If he wants to do all the work, be my guest. :D

[LIFTstudios]

Ana Tigre wrote about this a little while back on HARDBODY. From a guy's perspective I think she is dead on.

http://www.hardbody.com/news/2008/03/22/new-hardbodycom-feature-ask-ana/

The taboo subject of sex is also relevant to the discussion of balance. On my fitness board, we discuss sex frequently. A lot of the competitors that I know have a hard time maintaining a normal sex life during prep (prepping can have an unfortunate way interrupting sexual activity). I feel that maintaining a healthy sex life is very important. Unless someone has hormonal imbalances due to diet or over-training, they may not feel like having sex during prep simply due to the overwhelming tiredness. We may feel too sore or too weak from the constant training and sometimes we may be distracted from over-analyzing ourselves while we prepare for the looming competition.

With respect to sex, here is my advice: make time to be intimate with your mate. I make time for sex every day. I have read in many psychology books that most men connect with their mates through sex, not talking. If you try making an effort to connect that way, you can get a lot more talking in during the day. Neglecting the needed intimacy for weeks and weeks during prep can be very hazardous to a healthy relationship.

I have a dear friend that once told me that we cannot expect to put our lives on hold for weeks or months at a time during prep and then, in the off season go back to a normal life. The chance of alienating your mate or family is something not worth risking.

[Lex]

Amen Ana!!!! ;-)

[fitmomma3]

Sooooooo tired when prepping so I guess it goes down for a bit but not my entire prep, because I also get that jump start I love my body and energy feling for a while when it goes up... but I have a hornball hubby who will gladly take the reigns so it stays on track LOL

[IslandGirl]

I think I need Cam to come in here and comment. :D

[Amber]

I think I need Cam to come in here and comment. :D

LOL oh boy! :D

[SunlovinCO]

It's sort of a catch 22 for me, I feel all lean and sexy .. but I'm just too darn tired and have no energy. So unless hubby wants to do all the work... :bananasex::SBT:

LOL. YES! That is how I was on my last prep.
But this time I am making an extra effort to talk about it more, b/c it seems that the more we talk about it ... the more we .... uh... you know!

[SunlovinCO]

I think I need Cam to come in here and comment. :D

LOL oh boy! :D

LOL, that is exactly what I said too... Oh Boy...

[JenFerFigure]

Ana Tigre wrote about this a little while back on HARDBODY. From a guy's perspective I think she is dead on.

http://www.hardbody.com/news/2008/03/22/new-hardbodycom-feature-ask-ana/

The taboo subject of sex is also relevant to the discussion of balance. On my fitness board, we discuss sex frequently. A lot of the competitors that I know have a hard time maintaining a normal sex life during prep (prepping can have an unfortunate way interrupting sexual activity). I feel that maintaining a healthy sex life is very important. Unless someone has hormonal imbalances due to diet or over-training, they may not feel like having sex during prep simply due to the overwhelming tiredness. We may feel too sore or too weak from the constant training and sometimes we may be distracted from over-analyzing ourselves while we prepare for the looming competition.

With respect to sex, here is my advice: make time to be intimate with your mate. I make time for sex every day. I have read in many psychology books that most men connect with their mates through sex, not talking. If you try making an effort to connect that way, you can get a lot more talking in during the day. Neglecting the needed intimacy for weeks and weeks during prep can be very hazardous to a healthy relationship.

I have a dear friend that once told me that we cannot expect to put our lives on hold for weeks or months at a time during prep and then, in the off season go back to a normal life. The chance of alienating your mate or family is something not worth risking.

I completely agree with this! It is tricky to "make the time" but I think it's crucial to the health of a relationship. As for not maintaining a balance with friends and mate during contest prep...that is a battle but won that has to be won because nothing is worth alienating the people that mean the most to you. Agreed. :)

[GirlyMuscle]

The leaner I get the more I want it.

[fitlei]

I was JUST thinking about starting a thread about this...weird. I find that mine goes wayyyyy down. Anytime I start to think about shows or photo shoots...I tend to get soo self absorbed and involved that I barely have time for anyone else. The only places I end up is at home, at work or at the gym. I hardly do anything...and that surprisingly doesn't bother me....cuz I'm focused. I find it to be really hard trying to achieve that greatness you strive for when prepping for a show/photo shoot/etc when having soo many other areas of your life pulling at you. It's ashame but it is what it is. I do try to talk to my bf about it all the time and he's really understanding with it but I know that I can't push it too much. Maybe I'll start taking viagra while I'm prepping LOL :rolf:

[buffbabeGA]

yay i am soo glad i am not alone.. and jodie.. can i have some of whatever u are taking.. i want sky high libido...

welcome amber!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[SBT]

Well I was also single during my preps but I can tell you mine definitely went up and boy did that SUCK!!! :banghead:

[jlay]

Mine goes way down! I do feel sexier being lean, but I'm just exhausted, & tend to be way to focused on everything but sex!:oMy husband actually made quite a few comments about it & I feel our relationship actually suffered throughout my prep. I get pretty grumpy dieting, & he gets pretty grumpy when he's not getting any! I've only done 2 shows. When I decide to compete again I am going to have to make a conscious(sp) effort to work on this. Poor guy! It's not his fault!

[xena]

I think I need Cam to come in here and comment. :D

You two don't count. You're like a couple of teenagers! hee hee hee :D


(we all wish we were like the two of you!!) ;)

[Shelly]

we make sure it stays pretty strong..atleast thru the first half or so of prep.LOL after that it really depends on how tired/cranky/we are... BUT it does help when we both are lean and mean looking all fine LOL