Never Happy Syndrome

[Shelly]

Does ayone else experience this??

I have been kicking ASS this offseason...as best as I can..with meals and training... and have made good gains that I am proud of...But I am still not 100% happy. I always feel I can be better and get frustrated when I see things I can improve.

I guess I just never feel like super duper satisified. But I dont think I EVER WILL lol

anyone else feel this way?:banghead:

[bree marsh]

you are not alone!!! it is so mental! plus, when dieting (at least for me) one day i feel too big, the next day i feel too small, i think my progress this time is 100x better, but i am still never satisfied...i guess if we were satisfied, there would be nothing to work towards!

[IslandGirl]

Shel, Cam always tells me this.

Look at Mr. Olympia and Ms. Olympia. They are always wanting to get bigger and better. It's not only us.! :D

[Shelly]

you are not alone!!! it is so mental! plus, when dieting (at least for me) one day i feel too big, the next day i feel too small, i think my progress this time is 100x better, but i am still never satisfied...i guess if we were satisfied, there would be nothing to work towards!

yeah i guess you are right!! its a total yoyo and it can be frustrating:banghead:

Shel, Cam always tells me this.

Look at Mr. Olympia and Ms. Olympia. They are always wanting to get bigger and better. It's not only us.! :D

Ha yoru right trace.... I guess everyone wants to be better in some way, shape or form..no matter what level you're on!

[fitmomma3]

GIRL! I think we are all with you I struggle with this bigtime! It drives us to work harder but sometimes it is detrimental because we feel like we will NEVER achieve what we're after! You just have to TRUST and believe that giving it your ALL will result in Positive things... pushing through when your not satisfied is what makes you brave and STRONG!

[Betsy]

UMMM since i live upstairs from you i think you know my feelings on this.. how many countless time i come down to show you how i am looking and get ure input.. LOL BUT for everyone else out there reading.. LOL I dont think a competitor EVER feels good-- that is what drives us in the nutzy sport of ours... That is why I try to avoid picking myself apart on a daily basis.. because it changes like the weather!! Us women will never be satisfied! :nuts:

[Shelly]

steph and bets 110% agree!!!! but when i reach a point where im not enjoying my progress...THATS when i need to take a step back and put everything into perspective.... nick is my biggest critic..and he helps me push thru the rough times... and tells me ive been doing GREAT this offseason and I will look like a diff person next yr on stage...but sometimes I just want more and more and more.


oh the ups and downs!!! what fun! LOL

[Betsy]

are you PMS'ing?? :rolf:

[fitmomma3]

are you PMS'ing?? :rolf:
LMAO!!!! OR tired...seriously without sleep I am THE MOST PESSIMISTIC person LOL if I'm rested I'm all the glass is half full LOL

[Shelly]

are you PMS'ing?? :rolf:

LMAO!!!! OR tired...seriously without sleep I am THE MOST PESSIMISTIC person LOL if I'm rested I'm all the glass is half full LOL

LMAOOOOOO i very well may be thank you very much! LOLOLOL

my moods change like the weather too its horrible!!

[Hakan]

It is the same for us... I just steped down from the stage and have never been in a better shape.... Had not even got my t-shirt on before I was thinking of getting back in the gym to work on my legs and my back.... I was allready planning my next move....The day you look at your self and say " I'm perfect" - that is the day you will stop competing Im sure of.

Just smile girl you are on your way to the top :)

[DanielleA]

Looked in the mirror this AM and while I am leaning out on this new diet, I took one glance and thought that I am going to be too small again on stage this year.

I guess we just have to be the best "you" you can be! If you put in 100%, at the end of the day you can't say you didn't try, or do everything right.

[JenFerFigure]

I think it's great to have a need for improvement because it strengthens you in the pursuit - and the pursuit (for me) is the biggest thrill. If you had it all...you would get complacent and have nothing to strive for!

I feel this year I have made a lot of progress and I am happy -- and I know there are areas I personally want to improve soo I'm looking forward to my off season so I can kill my booty again -- train HARD babyyyyy!!!!

And anyway, I don't think a state of perfection exists -- not tangibly anyway. Happiness is perfection.

Ohhhh let me go take a nap...I think i'm getting loopy again. haha

[KristineLarge]

Of course you're not 100% happy. If you WERE, you wouldn't be a competitor! If you think your physique is perfect, you'll never push yourself to evolve and improve. A little dissatisfaction is a MUST in this sport.

[angelfit]

:awesome:
you ARE awesome SHELL !!
we are our worst critic... AND yes you HAVE been busting ASS !!
and you will see the benefits !! keep PUSHIN' girl.. we ALL want to
get better, be stronger, be tighter,.... yadda yadda... that's why we
go for MORE !! i'm sooo excited to SEE what you've built this YEAR !!
and THEN we get to DO it ALL OVER AGAIN !! wooohooooooooooooo

feel the excitement and energy ~~ i have nothing but love and :respect: for you !! you WILL ROCK... ''pissed'' off mode is good sometimes !! makes you PUSH to limits you didn't think were possible !!

STAY STRONG !! :kiss:

[ibarramedia]

We are all perfectionists when we feel this way. It does not matter how you look, you will critique something. If you won, you will HAVE to win again. If I'm playing basketball or football, i have to win and win big. And if you are winning championships, you are just going to have to keep winning championships. Same thing in boxing or sales. If your numbers are up, you want more, your boss wants more, your bosses boss wants more. It is never enough.... They will say, how about 3 more before the end of the day. if you are a successful conglomerate, you just want to acquire more companies and dominate the field.

[NPCFigure 40]

I feel this way alot! My trainer tells me how great I am doing, he says this year I look the best I have ever looked. He is very proud of my progress. I get compliments from gym members and trainers, and he has gained female clients that want to "look like me" ..and yet, I still pick myself apart, because I feel I can do better. Look better. He is constantly telling me to stop comparing myself to others and just be the best me I can, and be happy with my hard work and my progress. He keeps reminding of the old saying to see yourself as others see you.....

[SBT]

Does ayone else experience this??

I have been kicking ASS this offseason...as best as I can..with meals and training... and have made good gains that I am proud of...But I am still not 100% happy. I always feel I can be better and get frustrated when I see things I can improve.

I guess I just never feel like super duper satisified. But I dont think I EVER WILL lol

anyone else feel this way?:banghead:

Ahhh... STORY of my life right there :rolleyes:

[ibarramedia]

Ahhh... STORY of my life right there :rolleyes:


Don't worry. You are making good progress Shan. :)

[Shelly]

It is the same for us... I just steped down from the stage and have never been in a better shape.... Had not even got my t-shirt on before I was thinking of getting back in the gym to work on my legs and my back.... I was allready planning my next move....The day you look at your self and say " I'm perfect" - that is the day you will stop competing Im sure of.

Just smile girl you are on your way to the top :)

aww thanks Hakan... It feels good to hear that others share in the craziness of emotions that we feel i this sport... and for me to know its NOT me...its ALL of us :o

[Shelly]

Looked in the mirror this AM and while I am leaning out on this new diet, I took one glance and thought that I am going to be too small again on stage this year.

I guess we just have to be the best "you" you can be! If you put in 100%, at the end of the day you can't say you didn't try, or do everything right.


and THAT is what makes me get the negativity out of my brain b/ i know im giving my all;)

[Shelly]

:awesome:
you ARE awesome SHELL !!
we are our worst critic... AND yes you HAVE been busting ASS !!
and you will see the benefits !! keep PUSHIN' girl.. we ALL want to
get better, be stronger, be tighter,.... yadda yadda... that's why we
go for MORE !! i'm sooo excited to SEE what you've built this YEAR !!
and THEN we get to DO it ALL OVER AGAIN !! wooohooooooooooooo

feel the excitement and energy ~~ i have nothing but love and :respect: for you !! you WILL ROCK... ''pissed'' off mode is good sometimes !! makes you PUSH to limits you didn't think were possible !!

STAY STRONG !! :kiss:

awwww DOLO i miss you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:kiss: Please post more I feel like you are closer!!

and THANK YOU! YOU always pull me up when im down..and vice versa... and thats what true friends do!

SOmetimes all you need is a HUG (even if its virtual) from those who KNOW you and CARE about you....and then you realize that evetything is OKAY:o

Dee- LUV YOU:kiss::respect:

[SBT]

Don't worry. You are making good progress Shan. :)

Thanks ;)

[Shelly]

Ahhh... STORY of my life right there :rolleyes:

you are doing great girl!!!:respect:

[SBT]

you are doing great girl!!!:respect:

SO are you darling! Just remember we are our own worst critic too ;)

[Shelly]

SO are you darling! Just remember we are our own worst critic too ;)

very true statement!:kiss:

[Dawn Melanie]

:nuts:Yeah - all in this TOGETHER:nuts::nuts: SC :nuts::nuts::nuts: Hey, is that SC in the middle?! :D

[Shelly]

:nuts:Yeah - all in this TOGETHER:nuts::nuts: SC :nuts::nuts::nuts: Hey, is that SC in the middle?! :D

YEP there he is I see him!!!!!:waving:

[NYCStrongFox]

Remember sweetie, if it were easy, we'd ALL be doing it!
You're only human, but if you vision what you want to achieve, it will happen. Not overnight, but it will happen. We'll always set the bar a little higher each time and there is nothing absolutely wrong with that. We all do it. You've been doing a GREAT job, both of you have. You'll be so happy when you finally get to see it all.
IMPOSSIBLE = I M Possible!

[Shelly]

Remember sweetie, if it were easy, we'd ALL be doing it!
You're only human, but if you vision what you want to achieve, it will happen. Not overnight, but it will happen. We'll always set the bar a little higher each time and there is nothing absolutely wrong with that. We all do it. You've been doing a GREAT job, both of you have. You'll be so happy when you finally get to see it all.
IMPOSSIBLE = I M Possible!

Thanks Mel!:kiss: You are GREAT i cant wait to see you kick butt tomorrow!:respect:

[ripitupbaby]

Part of being a competitor and/or bodybuilder is never being satisfied with where you are...always striving to acheive something better! That's what makes us do this to ourselves lol!!

:cool: